What can I say about this book that hasn’t been said before. The modern love story in some aspects. Well the modern tragic love story considering that Gerry has died (apologies if you haven’t read it so this comes as a surprise).
“Finding someone you love and who loves you back is a wonderful wonderful feeling. But finding a true soul mate is an even better feeling. A soul mate is someone who understands you like no other, loves you like no other, will be there for you for ever, no matter what. They say that nothing lasts for ever, but I am a firm believer in the fact that for some, love lives on even after they’re gone.”
It took me 496 pages to get to that message in the book and don’t get me wrong I laughed and cried the other 495 pages; but in 2020 (the year that will probably only be remembered for the bloody COVID) what is a soul mate? Is it the same as what it was in 1992 or 2002?
Can you find that one person who you want to spend the rest of your life with? I grew up believing that your destiny is written before you are born and the big man up there has already got your life partner/partners decided for you. However, one of the things I did learn from Gerry and Holly’s love story was love grows as you do; as individuals and as a couple. Nothing can stay the same as much as you may want it to but I also know you don’t know if you can love if you don’t try.
It’s easy to think it’s ok to do it alone and don’t get me wrong as a fellow soloist there is absolutely nothing wrong in doing it alone (busting her moves to Independent Woman from Destiny’s Child) but life is for living and for taking risks. For living life to the full and this means taking the rough with the smooth.
Gerry knew Holly would need him to guide her and help her but what he made sure was after the 10 letters Holly would manage. Yes she would still have shit days and yes she would still miss him and cry for him but ultimately he had given her the most important message…”shoot for the moon”.
So whether you are 21, 35 or 65 give it a go. Put yourself out there, you might surprise yourself. And if you already have your Gerry there are two important things to remember.
1. Never go to bed on an argument
2. Remember to buy the bloody lamp.