“Pretty women wonder where my secret lies. I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size. But when I start to tell them, They think I’m telling lies. I say, It’s in the reach of my arms, The span of my hips, The stride of my step, The curl of my lips. I’m a woman. Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That’s me.”
I am one of those women that if someone says ooh that’s a nice top I usually tell them where I bought it which at this point I should add is usually Primark, New Look (other high street shops are available) or a supermarket where I did the weekly shop.
As women we are crap at taking compliments. Why? Why don’t we look in the mirror and feel phenomenal whether we are dolled up for a night out which I appreciate at present isn’t really happening or sat at home in our trackie bottoms with a messy bun because it’s day 3 and we still can’t be bothered to wash our hair.
Feeling phenomenal should come from inside; not because someone says we look good or because it’s what social media or the TV portrays. Now don’t get me wrong I love a good Snapchat filter as much as the next person but how can I write about love and finding love if the first person I discuss loving isn’t you. I know it’s an easy notion on paper but when was the last time you stepped back looked at yourself and thought I feel good. If the answer is more than a week ago why the bloody hell haven’t you done it since?!
Because let me tell you a fact that Maya Angelou wanted every woman reading this poem to know; it doesn’t matter whether you are big, small, tall, short, frizzy hair, no hair or purple with green spots you are phenomenal because you are YOU!!
The first time I read this poem I was going through one of the biggest curveballs in my life and I scoffed thinking I would never feel this way and don’t get me wrong I don’t feel amazing everyday and some days four cups of coffee before 10am is the only thing getting me through the day but I am learning. I am learning to say no and I am learning to take that five minutes for myself when I can but most importantly I am learning that it is okay to lock yourself in the bathroom sit on the floor and have a good cry if I need to.
But in the words of this great women; “Your crown has been bought and paid for. Put it on your head and wear it.”